Emotional Development and China
Lately I’ve been pondering China’s wonderful ability to pursue that which gives them pleasure, often the to detriment of their peers. some people call the behavior extreme selfishness, I’ve been here three years, I call it Chinese life.
Then I started to ponder children and how they go through developmental stages and wondered if one were to diagnose the emotional behavior of your typical Chinese person in China, how they would fare. To aid me in this academic quest, I relied on a Google search for emotional development in children.
According to this site, the following are behavior patterns typical with a 2 year old. Using this as a template, I will analyze my trip today on the subway: The question your current author is posing, is if the typical Beijinger is as mature as, less mature than, or as mature as a 2 year old..
Two Year Old Child Versus Beijing Subway who is more mature-
• Shows extreme behavior – dependent/interdependent, very aggressive/calm, and helpful/stubborn.
Today I saw four youths pushing an old woman as she exited the subway, falling to one knee she swung her purse at them cursing cai ni ma(fk your mom)–WINNER 2 YEAR OLD
• Gets angry when stopped doing something that is unsafe
Beijing has lines or stripes that have been drawn in front of the subway doors. The are arrows indicating where one should stand, as well as indicate a safe distance from the arriving train. Today, as usual, I saw a men argue with the subway helpers yelling that they didn’t have to stand in line and they would get as close to the subway car as they pleased. WINNER 2 YEAR OLD
• Temper tantrums are common and tends to cry, scream, kick, bite and can be rough with other children
Entering a Chinese subway is like a rugby scrum or an all star wrestling Battle Royale, all elements of humanity and decency are extinguished once the doors open. WINNER 2 YEAR OLD
• Needs parent/teacher/carer to tell him what is right and wrong
If it weren’t for uncle chicom (communist party), this place would redefine anarchy. Even with the risk of the death penalty for toxic food, etc, it happens on a regular basis. WINNER 2 YEAR OLD
• Easily distracted because of short attention span
Chinese can concentrate on those godforsaken rubiks cubes for hours (still popular here) WINNER CHINA-MAN
• Has little concept of sharing – plays alone alongside other children
“Random acts of kindness ” are non existent in China, thus the reason for this post. For examples, just read my blog . WINNER TIMES 2 2 YEAR OLD
• Likes routine and any changes are upsetting
Chinese are tribal and territorial, they dislike the new. I know Chinese who have lived in Beijing for years and never ventured beyond their little community. WINNER- TIE
• Beginning to show feelings of sympathy, pity and pride and aware of praise and smile
Tough call, Chinese will smile if you give them cause. For instance just the other day I witnessed a smile on the face of a guy as he stole the subway seat of a pregnant lady. Empathy, in China-wtf, never happen? WINNER- TIE
• Becoming more independent
Fighting for a seat could be equated with independence. WINNER CHINA-MAN
• Afraid of noises, trains, thunder and flushing toilets. Separation from parent, especially at bedtime is still frightening
Chinese are mystified by all things electric. They run into closing subway doors, trip over stairs and cant figure out which button to push for an elevator, but your current author has not witnessed a fear of this things from the typical Chinese person. WINNER CHINA-MAN
• May be able to hold picture of loved one in mind which will help child to cope with separation from main carer (18 months – 3 years)
Images of the hated Japanese and what they did to China over 70 years ago is forever etched in their memory banks. WINNER CHINA-MAN
• Fear of strangers decreasing
Chinese are awed by strangers, but have an inner fear of that which is different or new. The wavy hair and odd colored eyes of the typical barbaric foreigner, coupled with mass amounts of body hair, make this him a bizarre beast. WINNER 2 YEAR OLD
And the winner is 2 YEAR OLD by a score of 6 to 4 with 2 ties..
Maybe I am being too harsh or cynical. One could argue that the subways of NYC are quite similar, but the current author does not agree. i guess whether or not you agree with this post you at least think of the message behind it…