Chinese Party Girls and Wounded Nation
Posted by w_thames_the_d on March 25, 2012
|China has tons of party girls, or so they say. While there are or will be 30 million extra Chinese guys who cannot find a Chinese wife, foreigners have fewer problems. Perhaps that is what drives the rancor in the locals when a foreigner is with a Chinese woman. The anger is palpable.
They say the psyche of the local men is fragile, perhaps due to their smaller stature, but who knows. The truth, however, is that they get very defensive when they see anything but a Chinese with one of their women.
But what about the women? The truth is that china is a wounded country. The people parenting people in this country have eaten the flesh of humans (during the great leap and cultural revolution) and grew up under a system that taught them that Mao was more trustworthy than their parents. In addition, these people were taught that the party is the cure all for all their ills, and assumed a fatherly role.
The women…. It is said that kids need positive relationships with their folks to lead normal lives and this is especially true of girls with father and boys with moms. But what type of parenting did the Chinese learn under communism? the animal kingdom provides a much better view of how to care for ones children then this place.
As a consequence, many chinese women are incapable of intimacy that is common place in the west. In addition, they are emotionally retarded, by a factor of a decade- IMHO. Actually, many who have lived here would not argue the assertions I have just made, just ask around.
The women…. The problem for the woman, and a boon for the men (foreign) is that the local woman have non existent relationships with their dads. Thus they do not understand love in any meaningful way. Thus, a guy can be the most uncaring sot and the woman considers it the norm.
Aside from this, many women are putting out just to be seen as ‘fashion’ or open, read as, not just another dumb Chinese. Had they had a normal relationship with daddy dearest, they would be more centered, but they are not.
What the world fails to realize is how messed up this place is. The hell wrought by the party is seen in the eyes of the aged, the middle aged and now the young. Although they like to try and talk the talk, the truth is much more bizarre. These people were yanked out of social and cultural anarchy , isolated and then stuffed into the international arena, all within a matter of forty years.
To understand your Chinese comrades, try reading books by Frank Dikotter, such as Hungry Ghosts or try reading a book called